Mental Health Homebase
I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety my entire life. Healing has been a long process, but this year felt like a breakthrough. It felt like fresh air. It felt like light and peace and joy. I finally found the combination of things that worked for me and I want to share it with anyone and everyone who also needs to find that healing. No one thing magically worked - it’s been a journey of finding what resonates, taking what works for me and creating my own interpretations, mix and matching, and building the perfect cocktail of peace and healing.
So here it is. Scroll about halfway down to the bunny with a top hat and there are links to everything I know. It’s yours for the taking. I hope it helps.
For me, healing hasn’t been linear, but it also hasn’t been constructed from one niche, one tactic, one source. It’s reflecting on an instagram carousel, it’s sitting next to the right person at the bar at the right time and hearing their story, it’s seeing the magic in the world, it’s learning and unlearning, it’s mucking through the questions and fears, it’s 5 different therapists with 25 different tactics and tools, it’s breathing and learning about my nervous system, it’s getting too drunk, it’s moving out of shame faster every time. It’s compassion.
There are a lot of people, standing on a pulpit of their past healing, telling the world how and what to do. Mental health Instagram is a sea of affirmations about how “we are not our trauma and our thoughts are just our brain lying to us to keep us safe”… and also how “we need to truly listen to our thoughts and ambitiously pursue whatever they tell us”… People have built courses and videos. They form and present clean theses with solid evidence. They are experts of healing, full of certainty, clean of doubt.
I am not that. I don’t have a thesis to sell you. I don’t think one thesis would work for everyone. But I do have the privilege of therapy, tools, incredible friends, good intuition, and time. I also have an abundance of curiosity and a stack of napkins and borrowed pens. And a promise to show up and share.
Welcome to my toolbox
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nervous system regulation
or The Life Hackiest Life Hack There Is
embodiment (get out of your head and into your body)
or What Dogs, Toddlers, and Drunk People Have in Common
internal family systems therapy / parts work
or a whole series of posts!
anxious attachment and other attachment styles I know less about
or Relationships for Dummies (like me)
emotional regulation
or How to Become a God (like me)
compassionate curiosity
or Fucking Tough Love and How it Changed My Life
trauma with a lowercase t and c-ptsd
or Trauma Isn’t Just The Big Stuff
therapy
or You Should Probably Try Therapy
and BONUS: 50 Things I Learned in Therapy
attunement and boundaries for highly sensitive people
or It’s Really Not Your Fault (but It’s Going to Be If You Don’t Set Some Fucking Boundaries)
enneagram
or How I Drank The Start Up KoolAid and WHY ITS ACTUALLY AWESOME
gratitude, surveilling for good, and finding awe
or Yeah, yeah, I know, But It Does Work
holistic approaches to mental health
or Vitamins, Reike, and Wellness retreats, oh my
mental health medication
or Mental Health Medication
gender stuff, intergenerational trauma, and values work
or I’m Just Listing Other Things I Don’t Want To Forget
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